Reverand Sam Oye, umushumba mukuru akaba n’umuyobozi wa The Transforming Church i Abuja, muri Nijeriya, yagize ati: "Nshuti zanjye mutarashaka, ntimukirengagize ibimenyetso byerekana imico mibi mu bashobora kuzababera abo mwashakanye. Ibyo bishobora gusenya umubano wanyu kandi bikabaviramo ibibazo by’igihe kirekire mwembi."

Uyu mupasiteri akomeza avuga ko amakimbirane atari mabi nk’imico mibi, kuko amakimbirane ashobora gukemurwa. Yagize ati: "Ibintu bito mubona nk’udukosa duto ni byo byangiza urugo."

Itandukaniro riri hagati y’Amakimbirane n’Imico Mibi
• Amakimbirane (Conflict): Ni ukumvikana guke cyangwa kutumvikana hagati y’abashakanye ku ngingo runaka. Akenshi, amakimbirane ashobora gukemurwa binyuze mu biganiro, kumva neza ibyiyumvo by’undi, no gushaka umuti w’ikibazo gihari.

• Imico Mibi (Bad Attitudes): Ni imyitwarire cyangwa imyifatire idakwiriye, nk’ubwirasi, kutubaha, kwikunda, kutita ku bandi, n’ibindi. Iyo iyo imico mibi ititaweho, ishobora kuba umuzi w’ibibazo bikomeye mu mubano, bigatuma habaho gucikamo ibice no kutizerana.

Impamvu Imico Mibi Ari yo soko y’ibibazo mu rushako
Mu gihe amakimbirane ashobora gukemurwa, imico mibi ikomeza kuba ikibazo gikomeye mu mubano. Imico mibi ishobora gutuma habaho:
• Kudahuza mu bitekerezo: Iyo umwe mu bashakanye afite imico mibi, bituma undi yumva atubashywe cyangwa atitaweho, bigatuma batabasha kumvikana no gukemura amakimbirane.

• Kunanirwa gukemura ibibazo: Imico mibi ituma habaho kwirengagiza cyangwa gutesha agaciro ibibazo bihari, bigatuma bikura bikazagera aho bidashobora gukemurwa.

• Guhungabana k’ubwizerane: Iyo umwe mu bashakanye agaragaza imico mibi, bituma undi utamwizera, bigatuma urukundo rugabanuka ndetse n’umubano ukazamo agatotsi.

Icyitonderwa ku batarashaka
Nk’uko Reverand Sam Oye abivuga, ni ingenzi cyane ko abatarashaka bamenya kandi bakirinda imico mibi mu bo bifuza kuzabana na bo. Kwirengagiza ibimenyetso by’imico mibi bishobora gutuma winjira mu mubano uzagukururira ibibazo bikomeye mu gihe kizaza.

Mu gihe amakimbirane mu rushako ashobora gukemurwa binyuze mu biganiro no kumvikana, imico mibi yo ni ikibazo gikomeye gishobora gusenya umubano.

Ni ngombwa ko abashakanye cyangwa abitegura gushaka bamenya akamaro ko kugira imyitwarire myiza, bubahana kandi bitanaho, kugira ngo bubake umubano ukomeye kandi urambye.

Ibyerekeye Reverand Sam Oye
Reverand Sam Oye ni umushumba mukuru akaba n’umuyobozi wa The Transforming Church, iherereye i Abuja, muri Nijeriya. Ni umwanditsi, umwigisha mu bijyanye no kuyobora, ndetse akaba n’umujyanama mu by’imibanire. Yashinze kandi ayobora gahunda y’amasengesho izwi nka Prophetic Prayer Hour, ikurikirwa n’abantu benshi ku isi hose.

Yavukiye i Kaduna, muri leta ya Kaduna, ariko akomoka mu muryango w’i Abeokuta, muri leta ya Ogun, muri Nijeriya.
Reverand Sam Oye afite umugore witwa Mary Oye, bakaba bafitanye abana babiri, David na Darrellyn. Umuryango wabo utuye i Abuja, muri Nijeriya.

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