Abefeso 4:26 hagira hati: "Nimurakara ntimugakore icyaha, izuba ntirikarenge mukirakaye"

Iki cyanditswe ni urutonde ruha abizera bo hambere amabwiriza yo kubaho mu buzima bwa gikristo. Iyi mirongo iragaragaza kandi ko ukwiye kuba inyangamugayo, ukirinda kwiba, ugaharanira gukora cyane, ukirinda ibiganiro bibi n’uburakari, kandi ukarangwa n’ineza, impuhwe no gutanga imbabazi.

Uru ni urutonde rwiza rudufasha kumva ubuzima bwa gikristo Yesu yifuza ko dukurikirana. Aya magambo kandi atanga inama nziza z’uburyo bwo gukundwa n’uwo mwashakanye.

Uburakari, ubuhemu, amagambo atuje, umujinya, kutababarira, no kutagira impuhwe, byose bifite imbaraga zo gusenya umubano wacu. Dukeneye imbaraga z’Umwuka Wera ku murimo mu buzima bwacu kugira ngo tubeho gutya!

Ni byiza noneho gutegereza kugeza mu gitondo ukirakaye mu gihe amakimbirane avutse mu rushako rwanyu?

Amanda Idleman umwanditsi wa christianheadlines ducyesha iyi nkuru ati "Nashakanye n’umugabo wagaragaje inshuro nyinshi ko aramutse arakajwe mu kiganiro, ko ari byiza twicaranye tukabisubiramo ku munsi ukurikiyeho.

Nk’umutima munini mu rugo rwacu, mfite ikibazo cyo kuva mu makimbirane. Mu bukwe bwacu bwose, byabaye ngombwa ko twumvikana mu buryo twemera gukemura amakimbirane, kandi ibi biracyari akazi-keza kuri twe.

1. Emera gufata Igihe-cyo kuva mu mpaka

Rimwe na rimwe, usanga uri mu makimbirane akomeye, kandi ushobora kumva ko nta kuntu ushobora kuva muri iki kiganiro giteye ubwoba. Ibi birashobora gutuma amakimbirane yiyongera kandi akenshi ntabwo biganisha ahantu heza.

Nyamara, nasanze nk’umuntu ushaka guhisha ibintu hanze, nkeneye kumenya ko tuzongera gufata ingingo kandi ntituzayihoshe gusa kuko numva bigoye kubikemura.

Inzira nziza yo gukuraho ibiganiro byatumye amaraso yawe abira ni uguhitamo hamwe kugirango utegure ingingo kugeza igihe byumvikanyweho ko uzasubiramo ikiganiro. Gusubira inyuma bishobora kuguha amahirwe yo kugenzura amarangamutima yawe neza.

2. Wibande ku kunoza ubuhanga bwawe mu itumanaho

Kwimakaza ubuhanga mu itumanaho mu rushako rwanyu, bisa nk’ugukora kugira ngo were imbuto z’umwuka. Tugomba kwitoza ubu buhanga buri munsi mbere y’uko amakimbirane avuka, bityo dushobora kurushaho gukuraho imirwano iyo itangiye.

Amagambo amwe y’ingirakamaro ashobora kugufasha kwigaragaza neza kugira ngo agufashe gukwirakwiza ibiganiro bikaze harimo gukoresha imvugo "Ndumva", "Nkeneye gutuza" imvugo, "Mbabarira", na "Ndashima".

Iyo tumenye neza ko dukoresha "Njyewe" aho gukoresha "Twebwe" mu gihe kitoroshye, bidufasha kwirinda gushinja mugenzi wawe mu gihe tugerageza kuvugana ku bintu twumva duhangayikishijwe. Ikuremo amagambo nka "buri gihe" cyangwa "nta na rimwe" kuko bishobora kongera vuba umuriro mu muriro.

3. Gerageza kubabarana n’uwo mwashakanye

Amakimbirane abaho iyo twumva twibasiwe n’abafatanyabikorwa bacu. Uburakari bwacu burakura kuko twumva tubangamiwe, tubabaye, cyangwa tutabonwa na bagenzi bacu. Kubabarana bidufasha kwitanga kuruhande rwibyiyumvo byacu kumwanya muto wo kumva no kubona umwanya wabagabo cyangwa abagore bacu.

Mu gihe wumva umuvuduko wamaraso utangiye kwiyongera kubera ikintu umukunzi wawe yavuze cyangwa yakoze, fata umwuka uhagarare hanyuma utuze kugira ngo urebe uko bagomba kuba bumva muri ako kanya.

Ni iki mu by’ukuri bagerageza kukubwira? Ese amajwi yabo asebanya biterwa no guhangayika cyangwa kunanirwa? Ushobora gusubiza ubabaza uko bameze aho gusubiza mu buryo bumwe? Kubabarana bidufasha kubona ibyiyumvo byacu byababaje ndetse no mubyukuri ikibazo kiri muri icyo gihe.

Nkurikije ubunararibonye bwanjye ko nzi nta kintu na kimwe cy’umugabo wanjye narwaniye cyari gikwiye kumurakara cyane. Iyi mirwano iteye ubwoba rwose yaturutse ku kunanirwa, guhangayika, gutandukana, cyangwa uburangare.

Niba umwe muri twe yari afite ubushobozi bwo kubona undi muri ibi bihe, iyi mirwano minini yashoboraga gukemuka. Niba umwe muri twe yari afite ubushake bwo gutanga uburenganzira bwacu bwo kubabaza no kubaza undi uko ameze, urugamba ntirwigeze ruba. Turimo gukora cyane kuri ibi, ariko imyaka cumi n’itanu mu bwibone bwacu isa nk’aho ikomeza gutuma kubaho mu bumwe bigorana.

Dushobora gukoresha Abanyefeso 4 ku bashakanye; ntidukwiye kureka uburakari n’umujinya bikura mu mitima yacu kuri mugenzi wawe. Niba muhisemo guhita mubiganiraho mbere yo kuryama cyangwa mukemeza kuza kubiganiraho mubyutse, icy’ingenzi cyane ni uko mudakwiye kureka ibihe by’uburakari n’amakimbirane byiba umunezero mu rugo rwanyu.

Ubumwe bugomba gusobanura imibanire yacu ntibushobora gutera imbere mu gihe cy’uburakari, kutababarirana, kutagira ineza, ubuhemu, n’ubuzima bubi butagenzuwe mu buzima bwacu. Kubaho kwa gikristo n’imbaraga z’ubuntu z’Umwuka Wera ku kazi mu mibereho yacu, ni cyo bisaba kugira ngo urugo rwubakike.