1. Uwo twashakanye aranyuzuza

Umujyanama mu bya Bibiliya witwa June Hunt yabwiye ikinyamakuru The Christian Post ati: "’Soul mate’ [mugenzi wawe mukundana’ ntabwo ari igitekerezo cya gikristo." Iki gitekerezo kiva mu mufilozofe wa kera w’Abagereki, Platon, "wigishije ko abagabo n’abagore baremewe mu mubiri umwe, ariko bagatandukanywa n’Imana. ”

Hunt yanditse muri Christian Post ko abagabo n’abagore basa nk’aho bitwara nk’aho ari kimwe cya kabiri cy’abantu bashaka igice cya kabiri kibakiza.

Marshal Segal asobanura iki gitekerezo, avuga ko Imana itaremye ishyingiranwa nk’uburyo bwo kwihanganira imitwaro y’ubuzima. Ahubwo, impamvu nyamukuru yo gushyingirwa ni “uburyo bwo kwibonera no kwerekana ubumwe bukomeye cyane.”

Umuntu wese ni ikintu cyuzuye niba umufatanyabikorwa aje mu buzima bwe cyangwa ataje. Ntabwo dufite agaciro cyangwa gake ku Mana dushingiye ku mibanire yacu.

Byongeye kandi, kwishingikiriza ku wundi muntu kuba abandi 50% bishyiraho igitutu kinini kuri uwo muntu kugira ngo atange ibyo akeneye byose.

Mu bufatanye bwiza, abagabo n’abagore barashishikarizanya kureba Kristo kugira ngo atange ibikenewe byose, aho guhindukirana ibigirwamana badashobora kubaho badafite.

Mu byukuri, kubura uwo mwashakanye bizatera intimba iteye ubwoba, ariko "mwuzuye muri we, ari we mutware w’ubutware bwose n’imbaraga zose" (Abakolosayi 2:10). Shyira mu bundi buryo, “twuzuye muri we” (ESV). Nta muntu utuma twuzura, usibye Yesu muri twe.

2. Ninzashaka umugabo/umugore, nzakemura icyaha cyanjye

Igitekerezo cyo kutuzura kugeza igihe gushyingirwa bigira uruhare mu bitekerezo by’uko twemerewe kuvana icyaha muri sisitemu mbere y’ubukwe kandi tugatumirwa gukiza imyitwarire ikiranuka mu buzima hamwe n’uwo tuzabana.

Ati: “Urwitwazo rumwe rwo gutebya mu gushaka kwera ni uko abakristu b’abaseribateri batabazwa kimwe n’abakristu bubatse, nk’aho turi bamwe.” Niba umuntu atuzuye nk’umuntu umwe, ntaba afite ubushake bwo kwihanganira ibishuko.

Umuntu wese azabibazwa imbere y’Imana. Muri Zaburi 51: 4, Dawidi yemeye ati: “Ni wowe wenyine, nacumuyeho.” Icyifuzo cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina cyiza gicungurwa n’ubukwe: niba abagabo n’abagore “badashobora kwifata, bagomba kurongora. Ariko niba badashobora kwirinda barongorane, kuko ibyiza ari ukurongorana kuruta gushyuha ”(1 Abakorinto 7:9).

3. Abagabo bategeka abagore

Pawulo abwira Abanyefeso “kugandukira abagabo banyu, nk’uko bayoboka Uwiteka. Erega umugabo ni umutwe w’umugore nk’uko Kristo ari umutware w’itorero. Noneho nk’uko itorero ryubaha Kristo, ni ko n’abagore bagomba kugandukira byose muri abagabo babo ”(Abefeso 6: 22-24).

Mbere yuko abagabo bayobora, bashimishwa no gutekereza ko ibi bibaha imbaraga zo gukora ibyo bashaka byose, bagomba gusoma igice gikurikira cy’uwo murongo. “Bagabo, mukunde abagore banyu nk’uko Kristo yakunze Itorero akaryitangira ”(Abefeso 6:25, 28).

Abagabo bakunze gufata Abanyefeso 6 mu buryo bwo kwerekana ishingiro ry’uburangare, kuganza, gutukana n’abagore babo. Imana yavuze ko abagore babo bagomba gukora ibyo bashaka, si byo? Inzira nziza yo gusoma uyu murongo, ariko, binyuze mu murongo wa Bibiliya yose.

Tekereza ubuzima bwa Yesu bwose n’icyo yabwiye abigishwa be ku bijyanye no gufashanya no guterana inkunga. Muri Matayo 20:28, dusoma amagambo atangaje yabwiye abigishwa: yaje gukorera, ntabwo yakorewe.

4. Ntakintu gishobora gutandukanya ubukwe bwa gikristo

Ibyanditswe Byera byashyizeho ingingo ku bantu bafite ingo zabo zatewe no guhohoterwa no kutitabwaho kuko azi ko abantu bavunitse bakora ibyaha.

Ntabwo ari icyaha kureka ishyingiranwa aho umuburanyi umwe ahora ashyira ibyo akeneye imbere y’ibyo undi bashakanye akeneye.

Nubwo kwizera gukomeye gushobora kwimura imisozi, kandi hakaba hakwiye gushyigikirwa abashakanye bashaka kubishyira mu ishyingiranwa rifite ibibazo, hagomba no gushyigikirwa umuntu ku giti cye uhoraho, utitaweho, cyangwa uhohoterwa haba ku mubiri, mu mwuka, mu marangamutima, cyangwa byose uko ari bitatu.

Pam Gannon yavuze ku Abaroma 13 aho asanga Pawulo abwira abasomyi be ati: "Dufite umudendezo wo gukoresha abayobozi ba leta Imana yashyizeho kugira ngo idufashe. Ihohoterwa ntabwo ari icyaha gusa, ahubwo ntibyemewe. ”

Niba uwahohoteye yihannye, agashaka inama, kandi akerekana imbuto z’umutima wahindutse, uwo mwashakanye ashobora gushaka kuguma mu bashakanye. Guhitamo bizaterwa n’uburemere bw’ibihe ndetse n’urwego rw’ubwoba rwinjiye ku wahohotewe.

Gannon yerekeza ku bice byinshi aho Yesu yashishikarije abigishwa be kwirinda gutotezwa. Ntabwo dusabwa n’Imana kugenda tubizi mu mutego - Umwami ategereje ko dushyira mu gaciro (Yesaya 1:18).

5. Imibonano mpuzabitsina y’abashakanye ni iyo kubyara gusa

Aho kuba umwicanyi, Uwiteka akunda guha impano ubwoko bwe. Ibyishimo no gukundana by’imibonano mpuzabitsina ni imwe muri zo. Intiti imwe yo muri Bibiliya yaranditse iti: “Ijambo ry’Imana ntiritezuka ku guhuza ibitsina kw’umugabo n’umugore cyangwa ngo bibone ko ari ikibi gikenewe gusa hagamijwe kubyara.”

Mu by’ukuri, Bibiliya ivuga ko: "Iyo mibonano mpuzabitsina ni myiza ndetse irera iyo ibaye mu gihe gikwiye, hagati y’ababaye umubiri umwe; umugabo n’umugore." Imibonano mpuzabitsina ishobora kandi igomba gushimisha ndetse ikaba myiza mu gihe ikozwe gusa n’umugabo n’umugore.

Pawulo yari afite byinshi avuga ku byerekeye gushyingirwa, harimo n’inyigisho ze zerekeye igitsina. “Umugabo agomba guha umugore we uburenganzira bwe bwo gushyingiranwa, kimwe n’umugore we. Kubera ko umugore adafite ubutware ku mubiri we, ariko umugabo arabifite. Mu buryo nk’ubwo, umugabo nta bubasha afite ku mubiri we, ariko umugore aba afite ”(1 Abakorinto 7: 3-4).

Kimwe n’igice cyo mu Abefeso, iyi ni iyindi igomba gusomwa byuzuye. Impanuro ya Paul ni iy’impande zombi. Buri wese muri bo agomba kwishimira kugirana ubucuti bwihariye.

Ntabwo ari bibi guhakana ubwo burenganzira bwo gushyingiranwa nk’uburyo bwo guhanwa ku makosa agaragara, nko gutanga bucece cyangwa kugenzura undi muntu.

Niba imibonano mpuzabitsina ari igice giteye ubwoba mu buzima bw’abashakanye, uwo bashakanye wahohotewe agomba kwibuka ko atagengwa nu’ndi muntu. Iyo umuntu yitwaye nk’umwigishwa wa Kristo, gukorera abandi biyobora ibikorwa n’imigambi.

Kandi kimwe n’ibindi biranga ubukwe bwa Bibiliya, Ibyanditswe Byera bivuga abashakanye bose mu myaka iyo ari yo yose, mu rwego urwo arirwo rwose.

Mushobora kuba muri abashakanye bashya, cyangwa se mumaranye imyaka 20 cyangwa muri kwizihiza isabukuru y’ubukwe bwa zahabu (cyangwa abashakanye bakuze). Zirikana ko hazabaho igihe cyo kwibagirwa, ariko kandi twibuke, ukuri kwiza ku byerekeye ishyingiranwa ryunze ubumwe muri Kristo.

Src: Christianity.com